Optimism, Confidence, Success: Ten Effective Actions To Build Self-Confidence

These ten practical tips will help you raise the self-esteem you need to achieve your goals and reach your full potential.

When people lack confidence, they may also lack motivation or even the ability to believe in themselves. Even if you are doing well today, it may be easy to lose confidence over time. This can have a devastating effect on your professional and personal life.

     But sometimes it can be hard to figure out where to get started, especially if you’re not quite sure what you’re lacking in the first place. These ten practical tips will help you raise the self-esteem you need to achieve your goals and reach your full potential.

HAVING GOALS is the first step in building self-confidence. You can't believe in yourself if you don't know what you want to be or do.


Having goals is the first step in building self-confidence. You can’t believe in yourself if you don’t know what you want to be or do.  There are a number of ways to set goals. One way is to directly ask yourself what makes you happy and how you want your life to look as a result of achieving those things. When you define goals and accomplish them, it reinforces this cycle of self-confidence building. When you believe in yourself, your actions produce positive results. Therefore, the more goals you have achieved, the more confident you feel about yourself. 


Positive thinking is often misunderstood. It is not about being happy but rather practicing an attitude of gratitude and optimism. By keeping a positive outlook and mindset, you are more likely to be productive, successful and happy in life. 

     Positive thoughts help individuals overcome their negative beliefs about themselves and improve their self-image. These positive thoughts can be generated by changing viewpoints and thinking about possible outcomes that lead to success rather than failure or disappointment. Another powerful tool for developing a healthy self-image is positive affirmations. In a nutshell, affirmations are simply statements that you believe, something which makes you feel good about yourself and your abilities. These statements can be as simple as, “I am smart.” Or they could be more profound, like, “I have the potential to be somebody great.” In either case, using affirmations has been shown to boost self-confidence.

     You can use affirmations at any time throughout the day: while driving, taking public transportation or before you go to bed at night. The more you repeat them, the more effective they become because they will become deeply embedded in your subconscious mind. The power of affirmations lies in their ability to reprogram your subconscious mind with new thought patterns that eventually lead to new behaviors and actions.  


A common misconception is that you should be nice and put your needs aside, in order to please others. The reality is that only by setting limits on what you allow other people to do or say to you will you ever feel confident enough to stand up for yourself and your interests. 

POSITIVE THINKING is often misunderstood. It is not about being happy, but rather practicing an attitude of gratitude and optimism.

     The key to building self-confidence is not in just thinking positively, but acting on positive thoughts. When you stand up for yourself, you are telling the world that you have worth and deserve respect. 

     As the old adage goes, “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” So the next time someone tries to make you feel bad about yourself, push back. You don’t have to go on the defensive, just calmly point out their mistake or remind them of your accomplishments. It will allow you to know that you are not a pushover and undoubtedly worth something!


You may have heard of a little thing called the fight-or-flight response. In the face of danger, our natural response is to either confront it or run away. Fear can stem from any number of things: being alone, heights, spiders, public speaking, social interactions…the list goes on and on. But what if we never learned how to deal with fear effectively?

     The next time anxiety sets in, tell yourself, “This is just an opportunity to prove to myself that I am a strong person and can handle it.“ Building self-confidence is about confronting your fears and then taking action despite feeling that initial burst of panic. Triumphing over this fear will make you realize that there is a lot more courage inside you than you thought, and help you become the person you want to be. The most powerful way to overcome fear is to take action and get started!


It is crucial to be confident in yourself and your abilities. It starts with loving who you are as a person and accepting all of the good and bad qualities that make you, you.

WHEN YOU STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, you are telling the world that you have worth and deserve respect.

     Self-acceptance means not feeling bad about yourself and your faults. It means making peace with your past and present circumstances. You need to admit where you stand in the world today, what your strengths and weaknesses are, and what is realistic for you to achieve tomorrow. Self-acceptance helps people explore their true potential and reach their goals more easily than when they live an unhappy life full of self-hatred and dissatisfaction. People who love themselves are more likely to be satisfied with life, as well as to love others.


It’s natural to feel nervous when you have to perform in front of a crowd. But there is an easy way to grow your self-confidence, and it’s as simple as looking people in the eyes.  This technique has been proven effective for many public speakers, but it can also help those who are simply feeling more introverted. There are many reasons why looking into someone’s eyes can boost your confidence levels. 

     For one, making eye contact with someone means that you have their full attention, and they will be listening more attentively to what you say.  Second of all, we tend to make eye contact with people we like or find attractive. So when you look into someone’s eyes, there is an inherent feeling that they like you or find you attractive too, which boosts your self-esteem. Talking to someone eye-to-eye can also be an effective way of building a rapport with them. “We instinctively look others in the eye when we speak to them,” says body language expert Patti Wood. “It signals engagement and interest.” 


Speaking slower can be a great way to build your confidence. Actors use it as a technique to get into character, and you can do the same thing in real life. Just focus on calming down, slowing down your speech and enunciating each word clearly. Concentrating on your voice helps you become more confident speaking, and it also forces you to listen to what you are saying, which is another excellent way of building your vocabulary and self-confidence. 

We can also use pauses in our speech to stop and think about what we want to say next, which will give us time to process the sentence before saying it. Pausing also gives others more time to process what you’ve said, hence they don’t feel like they’re missing out on something important because you’re talking too fast for them to keep up.

     Another benefit of controlling your speech pace is that it improves your concentration. So if there is something on which you want feedback, speak slower when asking for the feedback, then speed up at the end of the question. You will notice that people are more likely to pay attention when you are speaking slower because they know they don’t have to process too much information at a time.

…MAKING EYE CONTACT with someone means that you have their full attention, and they will be listening more attentively to what you say.


     Physical activity boosts endorphins, which are the body’s natural “feel good” chemicals. Exercise releases these endorphins into your system, which not only make you feel better but also help you activate positive thoughts and feelings about yourself and others. As a result, you become more confident in your abilities to achieve goals in other areas of life. 

Work out in the morning or evening instead of just watching TV or browsing social media. In the long run, it will give you a sense of accomplishment and boost your productivity during the day. Exercise also helps relieve stress, and many people find that they have more energy after a workout. 


It is a common belief that dressing well can make you feel better about yourself. This is because the clothes that we wear have an impact on our mental state. Dressing up in outfits that are nice and fit well will help you to feel more confident. 

     Moreover, appearance can be a significant contributor to self-esteem in people who believe their look is not up to what society deems as being “attractive.” It means that for many people changing the way they look can make them feel better about themselves, boost their self-esteem and improve their confidence. 

WITH THE RIGHT APPROACH AND A BIT OF PATIENCE, you can completely change your life and become a better and happier version of yourself.

     Changing clothes and wearing items that are comfortable or reflect the person’s personality can help people find more confidence in themselves.


It’s important to remember that the person you are comparing yourself to has a different set of circumstances than you do. They may have started earlier, or they may have fewer obligations or less outside pressure. It’s easy to get discouraged in a situation like this. But the next time you start feeling sorry for yourself, take a moment to think about how things could be much worse and remind yourself that there are people out there who would gladly trade with your life if given the chance.

     By comparing yourself to others, you’re also setting unrealistic expectations for your own life and potentially robbing yourself of any chance at happiness. Comparing is one of the most destructive habits because it sets up an impossible standard for success and happiness that no one can ever reach. Remember, you have your own path and only you know what is best for you.


Building self-confidence is nothing but a process. Some people can go through it quickly, and others will have to make some effort. But one thing is for sure, it can be done! With the right approach and a bit of patience, you can completely change your life and become a better and happier version of yourself. 

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